Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Resolving to be better

maslow

By the end of 2009….

Physiological

  • I will take time for rest and relaxation; giving myself permission to slow down or enjoy open space.
  • I will have fixed my left foot.
  • I’ll have spent more days than not with regular exercise and good diet, and I won’t feel guilty about the lapses.
  • I’ll have done what I need to do to maintain health and wellness for the long term, even if it means risk management and preventative care.

Safety

  • I will find my place in the world and settle there.
  • I will find financial security or stop worrying about it and downscale my aspirations.
  • I will know when to stop, rather than conquering every challenge.
  • I will overcome haste and distraction when I drive.

Belonging

  • I will strengthen my connections with the positive people  in my life and eliminate some negative ones.
  • Wherever I end up, I will find ways to join the community other than just hanging out with people from work.
  • I will be proud of how I conduct my relationships.
  • I will spend more time with my children and my parents, because neither is going to be around forever.

Esteem

  • I’ll have finished the Stanford classes that have been left undone for years.
  • I’ll stay informed and engaged in the wider world, reading, writing, and collaborating with artists and scientists in hilltop retreats.
  • I’ll nurture my relationship with (and give back to) Cambridge, because its always going to be a touchstone.
  • I’ll understand spoken Dutch, not just written messages.
  • I will make a habit of speaking truth to authority.
  • I’ll have crossed the boundary between life as it is today and life as it must become tomorrow.  It sounds vague, but I know exactly what I mean, and I diminish as a person every day that I put it off.

Self-actualization

  • I’ll better balance, or at least better divide, my work and non-work lives.
  • I’ll have an outlet for my ambition, creatively engaged in meaningful, constructive entrepreneurship.  I’ve put it off for too long and I can’t wait too many more tomorrows.
  • I’ll have scratched my itch for sailing, writing, art, travel, and reading, although it will never be satisfied.

Footnote:  I’ve always enjoyed reading Maslow and Jung on the nature of human potential, and when I reflect on changes that I need to make in my life, I can always look to their thoughts to stimulate my own.

3 comments:

A Touch of Dutch said...

Ditto my last comment here ;-)

Patti said...

This pyramid looks so different from the one adapted to be used in the field of elementary education. I use my version to reflect on each kid in my room and their needs, it never occured to me to do a personal reflection...an idea that comes from wisdom, no doubt.

Dave Hampton said...

Hi, Patti, The idea came from two directions. There is the notion that it's better to say what you want to be in a year rather than something you're going to do. That way, at least I feel like I can adapt to changing circumstances or opportunities. I like Maslow's approah because that way I don't overlook the basics that I have to keep in order no matter where I live.

Now all I have to do is make good on the intentions...I'll let you know if, in a year, I've exhibited wisdom or not...